Disclaimer: I am not a parent, but I have nieces, nephews and have close relationships with my friend’s children. I am a strong advocate for one parent (mum or dad) being able to stay home with their child/children before they get to school age, but understand that this is not always possible.
Nevertheless, I have a HUGE problem with people that keep having children when they are already struggling financially.
I understand that unexpected pregnancies occur and certainly do not expect people to terminate those pregnancies. I also fully appreciate that people’s circumstances can change suddenly with the loss of jobs or the break-up of a relationship. However (in my opinion), to knowingly bring a child into the world when things are already financially tight is irresponsible.
I often hear some people saying “I cannot afford to stay home with my child” or “it is so tough with food prices/the recession etc.” when people are NOT willing to downsize or make changes to their lifestyle to allow for changes in family size. Yes, downsizing is tough and a steep learning curve but it is totally achievable.
Why should taxpayers or the government foot the bill for people not willing to change?
Personally, I think that people can afford to live on one salary especially if it fairly reasonable. Families managed to do this when I was growing up. Mark told me his mum used to save the small family allowance she received from the government to use for bigger things i.e. to help pay for a present or new pair of shoes etc. I think this generation wants things now and are not often prepared to wait and save for it.
Call me naïve but I do not know why we cannot learn from our parents (and grandparents) generations. Surely, being at home with your children is worthwhile to teach them values and spend time with them?
There are plenty of ways to look at how you can cut costs and still enjoy life. Last year I wrote a blog about what people have done to reduce the cost of living. While it is not always easy it is something that people are doing to achieve what they want in life whether it is a new baby, buying a home or just trying to get into a better financial position.
I still do not think there are enough resources out there for people to use. I think that we need to be talking to our friends, family and communities to see what others are doing to see if it would work for us.
What do you think?