The
other day I was speaking to a customer and we got onto the topic of children. I
said that we did not have any and he asked me “what I do with my time” to which
I replied “I sleep when I want to and I do not have to worry about
early-morning Saturday sports etc.”.
For
some people being childfree is a choice and for some people being childfree is
an enforced choice.
Whatever
your choice be it childfree or being a parent it is absolutely your choice and
it really has nothing to do with anyone else. End of story.
What
never fails to piss me off is how some people think that if you are not parents
then you do not understand stress or being tired or how hard life can be
sometimes.
“Ummmmm
HELLO people did you get stressed before children? Did you get tired? Did you
have hard times in your life? I bet you did, but obviously nothing compares to
how hard it is as a parent”.
So
sorry if I cannot understand being a parent but please do not disrespect my
life and feelings because it is just as real as yours. I do have a purpose even
if I do not have children.
In my
teens I actually wanted children as I had an idealised idea of what being a mum
entailed. When I hit 18 I changed my mind and stayed that way until I met my
(now) husband. I wanted children with him. We had a miscarriage and it really
made us think about being parents and what that would bring. Had that baby been
born we would have a 10-11 year old child which is crazy.
When I
realised that we would probably never have children I was devastated. I grieved
and could not stand to be around my pregnant friends or family. It was a dark
period in my life. The grief was like a raw, open wound that would not close no matter how hard I tried. However, I made it through and survived and now I cannot even imagine
my life any differently to how it is today. I am happy. I am happy being an
aunt, I am happy being an honorary aunt to my friends children. I love
babysitting and get to do so this weekend. At the end of the day I get to hand
the baby back and go home to our fur kids and shower them with cuddles.
